If you have ever struggled with body image or weight loss/gain/loss you HAVE to meet this woman!
your weight is not your fault.
your healing is your responsibility.
let me guess...
You’ve done the diets - the high carb, low carb, high fat, low fat, fad diets, starvation diets, “healthy and sensible” diets - and realized that they don’t work long term.
You’ve done the exercise programs - high impact, low impact, plyometric, high cardio, low burn, mind/body programs - and have achieved limited results.
You’ve figured out that a “lifestyle change” is just a fancy way to say that a diet and exercise program is so inconvenient and convoluted that you need to rearrange your entire life to follow it.
You’ve done your “personal work” - you’ve addressed your mommy issues and your daddy issues, your inner child and your inner critic.
You’ve done your spiritual work - you can quote the Buddha, the Dali Lama, the Bible, A Course in Miracles and can cite the principles of the Law of Attraction.
you're tired of feeling bad about your body (and yourself)
while results are important
you want peace & freedom!
THAT'S WHY I CREATED
happy calories don't count ®
this means that you
with programs that meet you where you are & take you where you want to go!
I feel more freedom than I’ve ever felt and the guilt and pressure I’ve always felt around food is little by little, day by day, fading, being replaced by how great I feel in my own skin.
JULIE KICK,
AUTHOR, WEATHERING THE GRIEF STORM
the problem is not with you
The problem is with the conventional, cultural
"diet and exercise" model.
this model suggests:
The "Diet & Exercise" Model suggests two things.
1) You have to "pay a price" to eat. The price? Exercise - or weight gain. It is this underlying idea that creates all of the "crazies" we have around food and exercise. All of the diets, all of the mental gymnastics, bargaining and judging - the good food and bad food - and the crazy making.
2) This idea is even worse. It implies that your weight is your fault. This model suggests that if you are not the size or shape you want to be, you are at best unmotivated or undisciplined or at worst, you’re lazy or stupid because everyone knows what you’re supposed to do… eat less and move more – or eat the “right” food and do the “right” kind of exercise. And this is the piece that creates the pain and shame.
But the fact that you are responsible for what you eat and what you do for exercise, does not mean that you can therefore control your body and your weight through diet and exercise. That is a fallacy. That is the fallacy that lies at the heart of your pain, shame, drama and dysfunction around food, exercise, your body and your weight.
Your weight is not your fault. But your healing is your responsibility. And to truly heal and transform your relationships with food and exercise – to find peace and healing - and create a body you love - you need to work with a completely different underlying model.
Happy Calories Don’t Count® is that completely different underlying model.
YOU ABSOLUTELY CAN HEAL YOUR DIET DRAMA,
TRANSFORM YOUR BODY AND FEEL GREAT IN YOUR OWN SKIN
find peace and freedom from food and exercise
CREATE A MAGNIFICENT,
BEAUTIFUL, MEANINGFUL LIFE
FINALLY FEEL CONFIDENT IN
AND ABOUT YOUR BODY
create a body and life you love!
I was stuck. I knew from painful years of experience that diets didn’t work. And every alternative weight loss approach I tried left me feeling angry, deprived and frustrated. I thought the problem was me: I had a bad attitude; I needed to try harder.
Then I came upon Happy Calories Don’t Count®, and I had the revelation that the problem wasn’t my failure, it was the failure of the diet and exercise model.
Carmela’s approach is truly revolutionary. She puts forth a new paradigm that not only makes sense, it works.
DANA LIGHTMAN, PhD
AUTHOR, POWER OPTIMISM
Frequently Asked Questions
HOW YOU FEEL IN - AND ABOUT - YOUR BODY MATTERS!
This is not an issue of "vanity." Your body is the vehicle through which you experience this life. Therefore, how you feel in - and about - your body directly impacts every single aspect of your life - your relationships, your career, your finances, your family, your health, your well-being... EVERYTHING.
How you feel in and about your body literally affects the quality of your life.
happy calories don't count ®
5 SIMPLE STEPS THAT WILL CHANGE YOUR BODY AND YOUR LIFE
YES! YOU CAN "HAVE YOUR CAKE AND EAT IT TOO"
AND LOOK GREAT DOING IT
DISCOVER THE POWER OF "RELATIONSHIP DRIVEN" RESULTS
ALIGN
YOUR BEING
CONNECT
TO YOUR BODY
ENJOY
FOOD WITHOUT FEAR
Imagine what your life could be like if you felt good about your body!
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You made me look at something that haunted me for life in a way that heals my spirit and psyche. We’ve all been so conditioned to hate food and/or our bodies. You’re like a real-life superhero.
Mindy Lee Caron
Love you Carmela! Thanks for being a beacon of light, reason AND practical application!
I'M FREE FROM FOOD AND WEIGHT OBSESSION!
Carmela, I wanted to thank you and let you know that you have been the final step for me in my journey to freedom from food and weight obsession. It feels like new ground, as I feel like a new person. Thank you!
Just wanted to update you that I have lost 30 pounds so far. WOW! I am SO thankful for you teaching me to trust and build a relationship with my body. I feel so much more connected and tuned in with it. Just wanted to remind you how precious your work is and how much you help.
A.M.
THIS IS THE ONLY PROGRAM THAT IS TOTALLY DIFFERENT!
I have to say Carmela that this is really the ONLY program that is completely off the diet and exercise teeter-totter, and I have done a LOT of research. It is seriously amazing, so thank you!
PAIGE
I'm WEARING CLOTHES I HAVEN'T WORN IN OVER 6 YEARS!
I had been thin all my life, but ended up gaining a significant amount of weight while dealing with an illness. I tried for years to shed the excess weight but nothing worked. In one afternoon Carmela helped me see how my relationship to my body and my thoughts about food and exercise had changed when I suddenly had weight to lose. The weight started falling off and now I’m wearing clothes I haven’t worn in over six years!
LINDA
THE WEIGHT FELL OFF WHILE I HAVE HAD THE BEST GASTRONOMICAL MONTHS OF MY LIFE!
SHEILA
EVERYTHING FINALLY FEELS RIGHT AND I FEEL LIKE A NEW PERSON!
Carmela, I wanted to thank you and let you know that you have been the final step for me in my journey to freedom from food and weight obsession. Just the other day, I had a moment of surrender that made me realize the fight was over, just like the surrender you've talked about. I finally quit, I didn't need to fight food or myself any longer. It happened a few days after I gave up on the lingering diet mentality thoughts (thanks to you and the teeter totter diet idea), there was no more problem to hold on to. Like I posted before 'I want to work with my body and not with a diet,” this phrase came to me like your phrase “happy calories, don't count,” which I absolutely love, because it is utterly true they don't. It's nice to eat what I want, when I wanted without the idea that I am “bad” for “emotionally eating.” What a big misunderstood concept. You cleared that all that up for me. When I surrendered, I realized that there was never a problem with me, I didn't need to be fixed because I was never broken. I was just not in alignment with myself (a new and exciting term I learned from you), and now I understand what self sabotage actually is, it is being out of alignment with yourself. Plus, I can finally have the relationship that I wanted with my body now that the fight is over. I simply don't care what I do with food, I give it no attention. Everything just feels right. Food really doesn't bother me anymore because I refuse to give it any power over me. I am choosing to not focus or get emotionally involved with it. Food is just food and how I feel physically and emotionally matter more to me than trying to live up to any standard. I just let things happen and follow what feels good and makes me happy. It feels like new ground, as I feel like a new person. Thank you!
RACHEL
YOUR WEIGHT IS NOT YOUR FAULT.
YOUR HEALING IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY.